Monday, August 16, 2010

The Kids Are All Right (2010)

Director: Lisa Cholodenko. Cast: Annette Bening, Julianne Moore, Mark Ruffalo, Mia Wasikowska, Josh Hutcherson. 106 min. Rated R. Comedy.

Of all gay/lesbian movies out there, this was the very first to gain my sympathy. The Kids trusts and respects its audience enough to ask the difficult questions (how do homosexual couples feel about their kids being homosexual? does every child need a father? is there value in the traditional nuclear family? and last but not least: is homosexuality by chance, or choice?), and leaves them unanswered. Starts as a comedy - ends as a tearjerker. Watch it with a group of friends, as this is guaranteed to create discussions. Bening may win her first Oscar.

Mo says:


  1. Thanks GOD! Another lesbian gynecologist! First Juliane Moore in "Chleo" and now Annette Bening . We have no problems in GYN anymore!!

    But I think this kind of life seems so complicated and undoubtedly makes some complexes for children even though they would pretend no problem exists .I felt such misery and uncomfortably in those teenagers through the movie. They were not happy and I guess because of this taboo they won’t be normal anyway and will be isolated from society at last .In spite of being reluctant to change the way they grown up and never got satisfied with destruction of emotional stability between their parents or in the another word they prefer not to own a father, but their complexes will be remain...I don't know maybe I’m wrong because we are not in touch with such kind of families here at all.

  2. Dear Maryam,

    I'm probably not in a position to defend children of homosexual parents, but at least I feel all the problems you mentioned about the kids in the movie can happen with children of heterosexual parents too (maybe for other reasons). After all, many children of traditional families are pretty messed up too.

    Again, I'm not defending having homosexual parents, but having heterosexual parents definitely doesn't guarantee raising good kids.

    I think the core of the film was showing how Bening was fighting to keep the family together with all her might. Her last sentence to Mark Ruffalo is key:

    "If you want a family, go make one of your own!"

    The line still resonates with me, five months later.